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Subject: AUNTIEDOTE: I'm in dire need of advice...please read this.
Dear Heartless Bitches,
I desperately need some solid advice and you're the
only ones who can provide it. Please read this (I'll
try to make it as short as possible):
I'm 22, just got out of a relationship with an
emotional abuser. In the year that he's had me, he's
reduced me to feeble, self-loathing neurotic. At one
point, I nearly took my own life because I thought
that I was pregnant with his child and couldn't stand
the shame of it. And I don't mean that wrist-slicing
bullshit, I mean putting a bullet through my skull.
Thankfully, it blew over. I left him after that.
For several months now, I've been wondering why I put
up with so much and, surprise surprise, it's because
my father's an abuser. I've read all your articles; he
fits the description perfectly. The problem is: I
can't run away from him. Neither can my mother. What
can I do? He wont listen, he wont get therapy, he wont
stop, and he wont let go.
Oh and just recently, he's recruited my little
brother. It's excruciating. Every day, everything they
say and do...
The only solution I see is to take my mom and leave
him. Only, she wont do it because she doesn't want to
be a burden (she's too ill to work). And... as much as
he's crippled us, I can't not love my father.
So there it is. I thank you for reading this. Any
advice you can give me will be immensely appreciated.
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