May 24, 2005
[Dear Auntie Dote]
Subject: if you post, please post WITH email address, I like feedback
I was once a nice sweet guy, great sense of humor, a tad weird, and a self
proclaimed romantic, I am 36 now, never had a true relationship, only had one
woman in my life I ever truly loved.
in Massachusetts all my life. And over the years in my search for the love of my
I have found that from the time of birth. Women have been told that
men are pigs, scum, and jerks ect. On the other hand...women are supposed to be
the sweeteest things, sensitive and caring, affectionate
many tactics to entice a woman's attention, from personal ads, dating services,
bars, dance clubs, book stores, supermarkets, you name it, I been there. Even
the train, on the street.
One thing has never changed, the wealth on SNOBBY
matter where I been, the plan was simple...SMILE! And say
In almost EVERY ENCOUNTER the result was... she ether (1) she completely
iignored me, turned her head in the opposite direction than me, (2) she makes a
sigh or a grunt in response, (3) or she gives a look that could most likely mean
"how dare I say 'hello'" to her!
have been told I am negative, but how does me being negative EXCUSE these rude
women of Massachusetts?!
Another example you ask?
I was at
a news stand and I noticed a cute lady reading a woman's magazine... I noticed the
article she was reading was entitled: "how to attract today's man" so I worked
up my courage and said "hi there." She looked and me with blank eyes and went
back to her magazine!
about this one, I had to one day put change in parking meter 3 cute ladies
walked towards me. did I say a form of greeting... you bet "hello" I said... one gal
grunted. And all 3 kept walking. And I'll bet yyou money they were out for
drinks later and someone had to have complained, "I just can't seem to find any
nice men!" ahh if only she had said "hi!"
you get the picture of what I have had to deal with in the past several years in
my search for female companionship! You cannot honestly say it's all in my
Now we have dating services out there ready to help...themselves all geared
to help ONLY women...women get to co call phone chat lines for free...while men have
to pay anywhere from $1.99 and up a minute. We have bars that offer "ladies
dating clubs that women can join, no fees, and no obligations. While men have to
come up with $2000+ in some cases!
some reason...some women are still complaining there iss no equality among the
sexes! This much is true...men are getting railroaded, rippeed off in the dating
game big time!
course you may argue, "Not all women are like this - ¦you're stereotyping all
women on the acts of a hand full" ok, I grant you that one I only been single
all my life and been looking for love for over 12
right...some women are not that rude. Some women know thatt playing hard to get is
a big mistake because they would be alone forever if they were that rude...they
may know deep down they have to offer what they can. I been told I should LOWER
my standards and look into dating these women, and so I did!
you, as I lowered my standards, my goal became simple, find a woman I can ENJOY
being with! Not too hard right?
see if I can remember the women I met.
looking to experiment, freaks with glow in the dark hair,
body piercing and excessive tattoos,
one gal wanted kids MORE than a relationship, women who are more concerned
with popularity than taking care of their friends who need them, one woman
confessed before we met...on the phone that she had herpes. Ok that's enough. I
want to be able to go to sleep tonight!
start laughing when women I don't like
start trying to give me guilt trip "maybe you should lower your
standards" or " you shouldn't be so picky." As if I had NO RIGHT to be
the record, am I bitter, yes, am I angry, no...I am diisgusted and disappointed.
But I think you can see I have just reasons.
all problems, before the solution can be found, there must be AWARENESS of the
problem. I pray someone out there has been listening, it would be a crime to the
word if the problem got worse, there is no place anymore for women who play hard
When shy men are afraid to say "hello" or risk being accused of
sexual harassment. Where women only talk to arrogant men and ignore the awkward
guy in the corner. There are good men out there ladies, you just refuse to look
the "sexual invisibility" phrase resonates. It sounds like the same trait that
lets teenage boys look in a fridge full of food and declare that there's nothing
to eat, or lets a girl in a closet jammed with clothes insist she has nothing to
they want excitement, but fail to realize exciting and "dangerous" men are often
irresponsible and self-serving.
want their man to have money, but fail to realize that they need to give back in
other ways to get that ( and no, I'm not talking about sex... they just need to be
valuable to the man in the relationship).
want love and affection but think they're ENTITLED to it rather than realizing
they will get as much as they give.