April 28, 2002
Normally I wouldn't waste my time writing such
'flame' messages, but something about reading the nice
guys section really made be both laugh and grow very
interested in the person who wrote this. Like any such
work, it tells a great deal more about the writer then
Just as this will speak more about me then what I
intend it to say.
Now I'm going to just skip the needless
introduction because clearly by reading these letters
you should be perceptive enough for me to not bore you
further. I'm writing to inform whomever reads this of
The "Nice Guys" = Bleah! Article is missing something
Lets talk about consequences 'Bon', if that is what
I must call you, consequences of the choices we
foolish mortals make all too often.
Lets start with
RAPE, an ever popular topic, as certainly it seems to
be more commonly conducted by the exciting and
dangerous youth verses the average 'Nice Guy.'
Have ever seen a violent rape Bon?
Certainly not one of the
things most young women expect out of an evening, and
somehow I doubt it is what they have in mind when they
think of a little excitement. No, I didn't mention
this topic simply to imply that every interesting,
sexy, confidant, or otherwise alluring male is out to
have his way with every women he meets.
enough fun without much effort anyway) I started with
this because it is a good example of the increased
risk that goes along with such ideas expressed under
persona in "Nice Guys."
I suspect few people realize
just how more likely the odds become. There are far
worse things out there then rape (subject to
argumentation) that I could mention, but this serves
the point just as well.
Now contrary to what I have probably sounded like
just now, I have been called a compassionate man by
the majority of the people that know me. That being
said, I am not one to waste my affections upon such
'psychic vampires' as come in both male and female
Truly, some people should look first to
themselves for the causes of their difficulties and I
am far from an exception to this line of reasoning.
All this being said, I have witnessed both sides of
the fence ( so to speak) and I feel the article
greatly lacks perspective as it is clouded in
emotional bitterness towards the Nice guy personality.
I can tell you from personal experience that much of
the things spoken are probably approaching the honest
truth, but there are many angles to an issue and
clearly the afflicted do deserve some defense more
than what was given. It seems to me, having suffered
the yoke of attraction by the same personified women
silently idolized by the speaker, that I am as good a
candidate as any to take up their side. I challenge
you 'Bon' or whomever wishes to defend this flawed
construct. Try telling it like it REALLY is. That is
if any of you don't lack the courage of your
conviction can handle someone who has seen what
happens to the followers of this flawed ideal first
I'm willing to bet that often enough the same
pathetic guy that foolishly adores you might just be
the only one that meets your arrogant ass that would.
I say compassion is a merit, and the strongest of
wills often have it in tragically short supply. Each
of you should think very carefully before crushing
their fragile egos so quickly. Or would you rather end
up like this recent case?
The last one of your philosophy found her man quite
exciting up and to the point where he impregnated her,
drugged her up, and lit the room of her party house
aflame. Oh I thought it was damn funny waking up the
next morning to learn that the same whiny, unpopular
little emotional whipping boy we all treated like shit
was the only one to pull her, her drunken boyfriend
and my lover out of there all by himself. Sufficient
to say, perhaps you could use a little rethinking. Or
at least, don't allow your own emotions to so
overpower your thought. After all, I sure sounded
clearer and more logical before I started rambling
about this little incident didn't I?
Think about it.