March 3, 2002
Dear Fuckin' Bon:
As I read your column about emotional blackmailers, I found half of the
statements to apply to me and the other half to apply to my son's father.
I left him one year ago after I found out he served three years in prison
for phone harrassment - threats to injure - a woman in seattle 20 years
ago. ("He was trying to save her from a cult" blechhh") And I saw him
"chase down" his ex-girlfriend for something petty pound his fist in the
wall and bring her to tears while I was 8 months pregnant. He never
harmed me or threatened to harm me.
I brought up finding out about his past and he immediately blamed me for
being snoopy. So I confided in a friend, ended up having an affair with
him(reeeal smart), and left before this guy could find out.
Now, he wants to do "anything possible" to bring his family back together
(me and our son). After being apart for one year- including seeing a
psychiatrist, groups etc. -- before the end of civilization happens
(since the world trade center incident). (he's believed in the end of the
world most of his life)
Now that our lives are so peaceful and wonderful without him.
He was like a wounded puppy when I met him and now he's like a pitbull
that changes to a wounded puppy whenever he wants something.
You're advice is great if you don't have a child with someone, but what do
you do when it's too late?
Do you have classes on how to become a heartless bitch and why it might be
a good idea to become one?