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The Goddess of battle, strife, and destruction explains it all for you
by bon

Despite our best efforts to dissuade you, many of you have still decided to write to us with your problems, complaints and crises of the moment. We don't have a trained therapist on staff, and this isn't "Dear F*ckin' Abbey", but we DO have Bonnie, who has graciously volunteered her time and heartless perspectives in order to minister to (or macerate) the misguided, with "Dear Fuckin' Bon..."

March 13, 2003

This is a sad state of affairs I know, but I'm actually commenting on a Ricki Lake show, which aired here probably almost a year after it aired there. The show was about women who have been dumped, and they had a good panel of women commentators, but there were a few minutes at the end which really bothered me. They had the guy who made an internet site about his "psycho" ex-girlfriend. (link below, which we note has now become a paying site for DATING, for heaven's sake).

He brought along two of the ex's recordings to Ricki's show, one a furious woman yelling at him for not giving a shit and berating him for his lack of love. The other was a weeping (possibly drunk) begging him to tell her that he loved her and saying she'd had enough.

Both of these messages were out of context. On the Bitchboard, we had a thread about this guy for a while when his site first hit popularity. What people don't seem to do is read between the lines. There are two major things in his message archive that stand out. One that was true then that he seems to have "fixed" is that toward the end of his "collection" he had started to publish the conversations out of order for effect. He may have changed his site since then, but I remember that her last "Fine. Fuck you" was put in order before one or two other weepy things.

They don't look that way now so I wonder if he didn't just change the dates. When they originally went on-line, they had the dates as they were, and there were several out of order at the end.

This creep was taping his voicemails for manipulative purposes. Don't believe me? I hope you can get the recordings, and please listen carefully for the many times that she said "You called me", "you asked me to call you", "you said you would meet me but didn't", "you said that maybe...". There are some people who make the people around them crazy, and I'm convinced HE is the nutbag in this instance, leading her on and then taping her distress.

He was setting her up for these tearful and furious reactions.

If you listen carefully, you will also find that (stupid as she may have been) she moved to a new place to be with her new love (I've done that myself twice now, first time disaster, second time bliss) and she had NOTHING and nobody where "they" were and he abandoned her. He has a lot of nerve setting her up like that and then exploiting her hysteria. I've been hysterical myself but I guess nobody was taping me at the time. This man sucks so bigtime I can't express my contempt. Listen for the truth rather than her emotional or drunken response.

a thoroughly disgusted bon

WHO is psycho here?

And who is lying?

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