As I get older I find I have a decreasing tolerance for objectification from
I was scrolling through the previous HBI Rants, when I noticed a particular
one that tickled my fancy- relating to the subject of people feeling
'compelled' to touch you because you have the 'perfect body'.
Now let me get this out of the way right here, I'm a curvy gal with some
sick DD's. Also, let's keep in my mind that I do not like being touched by
random strangers, or pawed and groped by anyone for that matter. I am not a
However,† some people, I.E.
boys (not men, mind you, because real men know what respect is), seem to see
I recently cut off the beginning of what seemed to be a great relationship.
We got along well, had intellectual conversations, and generally had a great
time together. Until the fucker started touching me nonstop. It seemed like the
conversation died and he tried to 'dumb me down', as if by doing THAT I'd want
to suck his dick- and it also seemed his hands never left my
breasts/backside/curves all the time we were together. He couldnít understand
the difference between affection and excessive groping. †
Shortly after ending that disgusting 'courtship', I was talking to someone
that I thought would understand my reasons for ending it. And they did to an
extent, until I got an, "Oh you poor thing, I'm so sorry that happened to
you." And that just put my hackles up.
Look:† I was NOT a victim in this
situation. I was, however, a bystander of stupidity. And that's where the real
issue comes in: What obligation do I have to anyone who expects something out
of me that I'm not willing to give?
The answer: NONE.
Another question: How much of a "victim" am I if they try (ďtryĒ† being the operative word here) and fail at
taking advantage of me because I stood up for myself?
The answer: I'M NOT A VICTIM AT ALL.
The point of the story is that unless we take these matters seriously, take responsibility for ourselves,
correct the misperceptions and misconceptions, and move forward, we're never going to evolve
into an equal and strong world.
Because we're not fucking victims. We're Heartless Bitches that put an end
to the bullshit.