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Why I Date Heartlesses Bitch instead of Nice Girls


When I first encountered the HBI site back in March, I decided that from now on, I was only going to date Heartless Bitches. Unfortunately, true Heartless Bitches are a lot harder to find than I thought; most of the women I've found have been "nice girls"; nothing wrong with that, but definitely not what I wanted.

Fortunately, I've found that there are some Heartless Bitches out there for me (for now, at least). And I couldn't be happier about it.

Why do I date Heartless Bitches? There are lots of reasons, but here are some of them.

First of all, I like a challenge. Don't get me wrong: I'm not out to try to "break her" or make a Heartless Bitch change. No, it's because Heartless Bitches make me think, they make me plan, they make me re-consider, and they have no problem telling me when I'm wrong or when I've made a mistake (and, fortunately, they don't -- usually -- get defensive if I do the same to them). I'm not ashamed to say some of the Heartless Bitches that I've met and dated are more intelligent than I am or more experienced than I am; I like to learn, I like to be challenged, I like to grow. Heartless Bitches do more of that for me than any of the nice girls I've ever dated.

Second, I know exactly where I stand with a Heartless Bitch. Heartless Bitches don't play mind games. They don't fuck with my head. If I've pissed her off, a Heartless Bitch will tell me exactly what I've done wrong. And if I've made her happy, she has no problem with letting me know that, too. This just comes down to the fact that I'm basically lazy, and don't like spending the time or energy to try to read minds or play guessing games. Only a Heartless Bitch will be that honest with you. More importantly, though, the lines of communication and responsibility become two-way instead of one or the other of us having to do all of the work; questions like, "Oh, God, what have I done to piss her off this time" or "He never talks to me" simply don't have to be asked anymore. What a great change of pace!

Third, Heartless Bitches are just a hell of a lot of fun to be around. The ones that I have been fortunate enough to meet have great, sometimes raunchy senses of humor, and they makes me laugh hysterically. What's the point of dating someone, after all, if you're not having fun doing it?

Fourth, the sex is great. There are no inhibitions with a Heartless Bitch. They know what they like and don't like, and won't lie about it. Trust me, sex with a communicative partner is a lot better than sex with someone who says nothing more, "Whatever you like, makes no difference to me."

Oh, and have I mentioned the lack of head games? Why are the nice girls so intent on hiding how they feel and making me guess about it? A Heartless Bitch will never say, "If you really loved me, you'd know why I was upset." Instead, she'll say, "I'm upset because you pissed me off!" So refreshing and honest, and when we haven't wasted time playing mind games, it's a lot easier to solve problems, and the relationship grows better that way.

Nice girls are just as boring to men as nice guys are to women. Nice girls are emotional manipulators, vapid, weak, and boring. They might be intelligent, but they feel they have to hide their intelligence in order to "get a guy", so you'll never have a decent conversation with them.

I've done my time with the nice girls, and I've been bored and irritated out of my skull by them. I'd rather have permanent bachelor-hood than a marriage to a whiny, manipulating, vacuous "nice girl"; and I'd much rather be in a relationship with someone who's going to constantly challenge me, be up-front with me, fight with me, love me honestly, laugh with me, and talk intelligently with me.

I'm puzzled by the men who refuse to date Heartless Bitches. They have no idea what they're missing out on. Dating a Heartless Bitch is not always easy, it's not the continual ego-stroking you might get with a Nice Girl, and it's frequently very frustrating... But it's a hell of a lot more interesting and rewarding and challenging. I just hope that the Heartless Bitches in my life never stop being that way.

--Richard Crawford (Sick to death of the nice girls, and happy to know that there are Heartless Bitches in the world)

Copyright© Richard S. Crawford & Heartless Bitches International (heartless-bitches.com) 2000
Copying or reproduction (in whole or in part) on any medium (such as in print or on the web) is expressly forbidden without written permission from HBI

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